Posterity

We love out children and we love our grandchildren. Well I don't have grandchildren yet, but I know I will love them. The thing is though we cannot make decisions for them. Everyone thinks that they can decide what there child is interested in, where they want to live, what they want to do for a living and whom they will marry. This is just not our decision. Our children spend a very small part of there lives living in our homes, eating our food, and not listening to a word their parents say. It is this short time that we must impart all the wisdom we can. A funny thing is though, they don't listen to words so we have to show them. Our actions influence our children much more than our words. So we spend this precious time showing them what is right, what is wrong, and how we think they should live there lives. But our children are not us. We cannot live through them. They have the right from God to do what they want to do-when they want to do it. Whether it is basketball in high school, verses music. Drama verses home-economics. Or track verses automechanics. If we make them do what we want them to do because of our own prejudices and reasons they will be unfulfilled adults. Because they make there own decisions as parents we should teach them how to make good decisions for themselves at an early age. I let my daughter be late for her preschool class so that she could be embarrassed enough to not be late again. I let her pick out her own clothes. And I let her decide (within reason) what she will eat, and if she will eat. She is learning to take responsibility for her decisions and I can see that her attitude is changing from a selfish and self-centered little girl, to a caring and loving individual. I see too many adults not able to make decisions for themselves, and when they do they make very bad choices. I hope that we can teach ourselves to make good decisions and teach our children as well. The world will be a much better place.