a day at Chucky Cheese's

Being a parent of one child is different than being a parent of many children. Although as a child I always wanted to have the parent that would go to any lengths to nuture, love, and spoil their child; I never wanted to be that parent. I was exhausted a month ago with potty training. In my complete frustration, candy did not work, I told her that if she could poop in the toilet for 7 days (marking them with a sticker) she could go to chucky cheese. Good idea. For the next 7 days she pooped in the toilet, and then we went. I spent two hours following my child around with a cup full of tokens while children screamed laughed games beeped all around me. What she most liked was the small carousel. I saw one father there by himself with three children. One was a sleeping infant. He was having his sons follow him to the gambling games while he played to get the most tickets. He did get alot of tickets. Hundreds. Then he would feed them through the counting machine and then go to the prize center. One mother also with an infant by herself let her 22 month old run around unsupervized. I found this out because the little girl had fallen off the slide in the small playground and was screaming for her mother. I was there to comfort her while 3 dad's looked on not knowing what to do. I found her mom and gave her back. I subsequently was found by her three more times while I was there asking where her mother was. She wasn't tall enough to see over the partitions and get back to her table. The chaos at times was deafening. But the kids loved it. Andrea loves it. My mistake was not sharing with my husband the reward program. Now he wants to take her just when he feels like it. Using the same reason-you go poo-poo and pee-pee in the toilet. Even when she is still having accidents. He loves it there too. Hmmmm

Sinus infection

For those of you who don't know what a sinus infection feels like let me share. It feels like someone took a mallet and hit me over and over and over and over right between the eyes.

A pondering on life

This is a question, please post your answer. "When do you believe that life begins, and why?"

A pondering in infidelity

This is a question. Please post your answer. "If you have been unfaithful in a previous marriage, do you have an obligation to tell the next person that you want to marry before the wedding?" "---and/or after the wedding? and why?"

Time

One of the facts of living in this society that bothers me the most is the disregard and disrespect of others time. You go to a doctor's office and you might sit there 15 minutes, or you might sit there 3 hours, but the nurse that is managing those patient's knows how long you are going to have to wait, and they don't tell you. They let you sit there, with your small child, with another appointment to go to, and tell you nothing. This is not because of a bad doctor, just a bad office manager. If a doctor takes 30 minutes on average per patient, their patients should be scheduled 30 minutes apart, not 15 minutes. Another good idea is to tell the patient that they have 15 minutes scheduled with the doctor. That way if they have something that they are not telling the person that makes the appointments they will be able to communicate that 15 minutes might not sufficient. I know that obtaining a doctorate is a monumental achievement that takes years of study, concentration, and sacrifice. But this does not give the person with the doctorate the right to mismanage their time and waste others. For example: I had to leave a doctor's office before the doctor could see me at one point because three hours after my scheduled appointment, 40 minutes into waiting in an exam room naked, my 14 month old daughter stood up on a chair and proceeded to fall straight back onto the hard floor and hit the back of her head. I went straight to her doctor's office and had her checked out and home within an hour. I did have a babysitter scheduled for that visit, but she called and cancelled at the last minute. If I would have rescheduled that day which I had to anyway it pushed my annual and my birthcontrol out 3 months. The doctor's office could not make an exception and use time allotted for something else for my annual. Even when this occurred. I now schedule an entire day to receive an annual. No I cannot meet for lunch. I know my appointment is at 9:15, but I still do not plan to get out of there until 2:00. So, for a 15 minute appointment I must take 6 hours out of my day. That is beyond mismanagement. This is disrespect, disregard for others and unethical. Paying a babysitter for an entire day, when you are not using one everyday, is $30- if you can find someone willing to do it. I need to get a different doctor.

Parental Advice

"----every woman will be more beautiful and that every man will also be as handsome as anyone could imagine. It won't be a situation where one will be stuck with something for eternity that is not acceptable. Right now we have to figure it out on our own. We are given the prophets and the apostles and leadership to tell us among other things that we are not the only ones that this has ever happened to . I encourage one to study and learn and love each other like one loved you when one married one and not like when a conflict comes up. Sometimes little things get to be big things without even trying. I am just giving you the encouragement to have the happiest and most perfect marriage that you are willing to work for. God loves you both the same and is putting you in a situation to become more like him and comfortable in His presence. I know that one will be happy once one realizes that ones happiness in ones own hands. No matter what kind of situation one is in. The people that self destruct are the people that don't realize this and blame their situation on someone else. The ones that avoid blaming others are grateful for the ones around them and their self worth is inside them. One has good and bad upbringing, even so one has to learn these things a little bit at a time. I want you to be boiling over with happiness. Everyone must accept all those inlaws and enjoy them for who they are and not what they do. No one is going to affect your mood for good if you are around the 24 hours a day." Parental Advice